soul touching excerpts from the apple original - 'the crowded room'

- Then let me ask you something. If you were hit in the chest by an arrow, figure it'd hurt? 

- What?

- An arrow hits you in the chest. Simple question, does it hurt? Yes or No?

- Yes, yeah sure.

- All right second one hits you, in exactly the same spot. What do you think, hurts more or less?

- More.

- See, Buddha says the first arrow you can't avoid. It's pain. It's the shit that life throws at you. But the second one, it's fear, it's anxiety. It's the story we tell ourselves about the first arrow. It hurts as much as you let it, or it doesn't exist at all. You understand?

- Jack to Danny, Episode 4

"We've all been hurt, some more than others. And we can have a tendency to stay in relationships that are bad. Those receptors are firing telling us not to risk loosing what we have. Even it's to find something better for us, healthier for us. We stay with the hurt we know rather than risk being hurt again. But we have a choice, the truth is we always have - we just have to to remember to try to keep making it. To remember that other people can hurt us, but they can also help us. That to reach out and to let someone reach back, is a way out of pain. That doesn't mean it's easy, in fact it's hard. Terrifying even."
- Rya, Episode 9